The hospital where Ellie died, is putting up a little resistance to accepting memory boxes. Their reason: they find them unnecessary. They believe the grief information they give is enough. They do have some hand print making materials. But that is it. I am truly baffled by their response to our offer. I'm pretty sure it's all a bunch of bureaucratic bull, but either way, they are standing in our way of helping families. Just dumb. So here's what I would like to do...
I would like to submit to the hospital, several testimonies from families who have been where we have. Families who have had to say good-bye to their babies (meaning children- of all ages). I would like to hear what your hospital did for you, what they sent you home with or what they did with you, to help make memories. Did you do hand prints, footprints, get locks of hair, have nice things to bathe your child with, have opportunities for pictures, etc. Let us know what these things meant (and still mean) to you. On the other hand, if you had a bad experience with this (like we did), what that meant to you. How did that make you feel?
I know a lot of hospitals are better prepared to deal with stillborns, and the hospital we donating too (or trying too...) do not have any stillborns (it's strictly a children's hospital). So, we really need testimonies from families who experienced a sudden loss of a child, outside the womb. We would still love to hear from you Mommies of stillborns, because I think the memory boxes are especially important in this instance.
I know this might be hard for a lot of people to think about, write about, and then share with strangers. I completely understand that. But I really think this is something important to do for families so if you are able, please share your story and thoughts.
If you are willing- please send them to Ellie's Light at firstname.lastname@example.org
If you want to include a picture of your Angel, please do. I want these hospital admins. to know, that they are dealing with REAL children and REAL families. Not statistics or "patients." These are our babies.
Remembering April 10th, 2010
Mommy and Ellie having quiet time out on the porch while Daddy makes some dinner. Max never seemed to be bothered by all the noise and action going on around him until he got a little older. But it definitely bothered Ellie. If she was trying to sleep and things were loud, she would furl up her little brow and give us a dirty look! So funny!
L.O.V.E. this picture of Peanut!
Daddy and Ellie cuddling on the couch.
One of my favorite time of the day used to be bathtime with the kids. The both loved their baths and it was an instant cure for a crabby, tired baby! Dave and I went to a zone defense, one doing the undressing and re-dressing, while the other did the baths. This night was Dave's night for baths. I love how Ellie is watching him. She definitely loved her Daddy.
Maxer reading a little Dr. Suess before bathtime!
Our bare babies!